Tuesday, June 19, 2007

Pushing An Elephant Up The Stairs

How does one do it? Is there a way about it? Is there even a slim possibility that it is indeed probable? How on this good earth is someone suppossed to do it?
This basically means that there is an exceptionally strong chance that one may keep on trying but it may never happen in a fairly certain eventuality. These things happen for a reason, for a beautiful, wonderful, yet fickle reason. It is shockingly capricious but worth trying to understand. The only apple left in the basket, the only shopping bag not billed, the only stone yet to be left unturned, so it may seem to the outside eye, but then again, it may also happen that that may be the best apple. These things, more often than not, turn out to be character building, they make one wiser, they are worth living through. These things generally work the same way they are suppossed to work, there is a ridiculously direct relationship of how much troubled your mind is in a blatantly positive sense, and how much it helps in the long run. It's good to stick with these things.
The primary problem in pushing an elephant up the stairs is that we are looking at it as an elephant, and a gritty one at that. We need to look at the fact at how big the stairs are!!!!
Yes, the stairs are winding, and they lead to a long, dirty, slimy winding tunnel ahead of them, but to get to the tunnel, we need the stairs, and then only can we realize then it comes to be that the soothing light at the end of the tunnel is just a freight train coming our way.
The glitch is we pushed the elephant up the stairs once, and it fell down leaving us to push it back up again. So this time, we will be wiser as to push it back again and make sure that it stays there. And just to make sure this time, we are gonna push an elephant up the stairs, fit it in a refridgerator, then just for kicks, fit another one in there.
If there is one thing i have learned, experience is food for the brain. And i will have my rich meal, the one that is deserved.

I've paid my dues
Time after time
I've done my sentence
But committed no crime
And bad mistakes I've made a few
I've had my share of sand kicked in my face
But I've come through
We are the champions
And we'll keep on fighting
till the end
I've taken my bows And my curtain calls
But it's been no bed of roses
No pleasure cruise
I consider it a challenge
And I ain't gonna lose........

We have had enough of good food.....

It is now time that calls for pushing an elephant up the stairs.

Monday, June 18, 2007

Don't Know What I'm Talking About

Marriage is an instituion unlike any other for it encompasses or rather should encompass apart from the merely physical bonding, the social, emotional and psychological aspects between two unlike indivdals.The origin of marriage remains lost in the mysteries of time although experts agree that some sort of social excercise which may be recognised as marriage existed even in the earliest civilisations. The same experts also agree that some form of divorce has existed for an equally unknown period.However it has been in the post World War II period that divorces have become so common thereby bringing into existence a whole new breed of Counsellors,Therapists and of course Divorce Attorneys.Divorce is the analysis of a dead marriage. Men and women squabbling over properties, alimonies,children and ofcourse money is a sad insight in the complexities that is the human relationship.If a tenth of the passion which people show in the process of getting a divorce is perhaps used to try and save a marriage, I dare say there would be a sure drop in the number of divorces.I think it is important to acknowledge the fact that despite being in this modern and so called jet age where speed is used as a definitive parameter of measurement, there are more and more people who are getting married at an early age as compared to a couple of decades back.One reason could be that we are simply part of a generation which has been endowed with enormous maturity allowing us to thereby determine the path that we want to walk on much too quickly. Although it must be said that the speed in which people are getting married is being matched by the speed at which they are getting divorced. The other and more fundamental reason i think is the exposure which our generation seems to enjoy and experience, relative to the older generations.This has the effect of creating a misguided sense of purpose and maturity leading to haste in important decisions.It should be noted that most divorces actually take place within a 3 to 5 year period during which one of the partners comes to the realisation of having committed a mistake although if after coming to that realisation whether the same partner analyses why he or she is in the said relationship to start with is highly doubtfull. I am of the beleif that getting a divorce for watever reasons after 10-12 years of marriage is probably justified as within that timeframe an elaborate understanding of the relationship should no doubt have been established unless ofcourse the reason for the seperation is because the older partner has suddenly found an younger babe or young stud in which case it is plain stupid.Talking about divorce without ' trial seperation ' is almost impossible as in most cases the partners go through this charade thereby filling the pockets of the marriage counsellors.A complete waste of time in most cases as it just serves to make the partners realise that they are pretty ok without the other partner, a realisation which probably would have necessitated the divorce in the first place.Having said all that,divorce does have its adantages:
1. As mentioned it has created a livelyhood for a host of lawyers, therapists and counsellors.
2. The frequency of the divorces has ensured that in most developed and progressive societies it is no longer considered a taboo as it indeed was through a large part of the last century.
3. It has helped advance the technology of listening and photography devices enlisted to capture the erring husband or the promiscuous wife.
4. But most importantly, it's social acceptance has allowed a whole bunch of abused men and women to speak out in the open and end their misery.
5. It has also i beleive made people realise that it indeed takes two to tango.