Don't Know What I'm Talking About

Marriage is an instituion unlike any other for it encompasses or rather should encompass apart from the merely physical bonding, the social, emotional and psychological aspects between two unlike indivdals.The origin of marriage remains lost in the mysteries of time although experts agree that some sort of social excercise which may be recognised as marriage existed even in the earliest civilisations. The same experts also agree that some form of divorce has existed for an equally unknown period.However it has been in the post World War II period that divorces have become so common thereby bringing into existence a whole new breed of Counsellors,Therapists and of course Divorce Attorneys.Divorce is the analysis of a dead marriage. Men and women squabbling over properties, alimonies,children and ofcourse money is a sad insight in the complexities that is the human relationship.If a tenth of the passion which people show in the process of getting a divorce is perhaps used to try and save a marriage, I dare say there would be a sure drop in the number of divorces.I think it is important to acknowledge the fact that despite being in this modern and so called jet age where speed is used as a definitive parameter of measurement, there are more and more people who are getting married at an early age as compared to a couple of decades back.One reason could be that we are simply part of a generation which has been endowed with enormous maturity allowing us to thereby determine the path that we want to walk on much too quickly. Although it must be said that the speed in which people are getting married is being matched by the speed at which they are getting divorced. The other and more fundamental reason i think is the exposure which our generation seems to enjoy and experience, relative to the older generations.This has the effect of creating a misguided sense of purpose and maturity leading to haste in important decisions.It should be noted that most divorces actually take place within a 3 to 5 year period during which one of the partners comes to the realisation of having committed a mistake although if after coming to that realisation whether the same partner analyses why he or she is in the said relationship to start with is highly doubtfull. I am of the beleif that getting a divorce for watever reasons after 10-12 years of marriage is probably justified as within that timeframe an elaborate understanding of the relationship should no doubt have been established unless ofcourse the reason for the seperation is because the older partner has suddenly found an younger babe or young stud in which case it is plain stupid.Talking about divorce without ' trial seperation ' is almost impossible as in most cases the partners go through this charade thereby filling the pockets of the marriage counsellors.A complete waste of time in most cases as it just serves to make the partners realise that they are pretty ok without the other partner, a realisation which probably would have necessitated the divorce in the first place.Having said all that,divorce does have its adantages:
1. As mentioned it has created a livelyhood for a host of lawyers, therapists and counsellors.
2. The frequency of the divorces has ensured that in most developed and progressive societies it is no longer considered a taboo as it indeed was through a large part of the last century.
3. It has helped advance the technology of listening and photography devices enlisted to capture the erring husband or the promiscuous wife.
4. But most importantly, it's social acceptance has allowed a whole bunch of abused men and women to speak out in the open and end their misery.
5. It has also i beleive made people realise that it indeed takes two to tango.